Saturday, July 05, 2008

The 'F' factor/s

Is there something in this world that's actually termed fear or failure? This has been a question that's been burning in my mind this past week or so.

What do you term as fear? - Is it something that a person is inherently born with or is it something that an individual acquires over a period of time? Or, better still, does it exist at all?

I've always wondered if a person doesn't do what he/she wants to do; it has to be either due to fear or compulsion. When it's due to fear you let yourself become smaller than what you really are, and if it's due to compulsion you place someone else's choice above yours. Now, which is good or which is bad is totally dependent on the scenario one is in. However, should scenario matter at all? Why shouldn't someone just do something that he/she believes in? A very simple example would be for a person to not express his/her love to the other for the fear of not being accepted or rejected, but, isn't it worse than not expressing one's thoughts/feelings? What you lose by not saying what you believe is, I believe, much more than what you do when you don't. This makes me think that fear and failure go hand in hand, glove in glove. Does it mean that the fearless is always successful? Yes, I would believe so, to an extent, because a person who doesn't fear anything or anyone does what he thinks is the best, and in doing so his mind is content that it has managed to achieve, or at least attempt to achieve, what it wanted to. Now, if, at the end of it, it only managed to put across what it wanted to, without having had the full outcome - is that failure? No, I would refuse to believe so, for the success lies in the act and content is a by-product of success.

How does one overcome fear? - does he attain it by start believing in himself or does he attain it by reaching a mysterious zone that gives him a strange sense of peace and self-belief? Does overcoming fear totally rule out the sense of failure out of an individual?

While I now check what I’ve written for typos and grammatical correctness, I’m left wondering as to why are there more questions posed and left unanswered than there are any potential answers or solutions to what I, would probably, call the F factor. It’s possibly because I don’t know them myself, or am left wondering if I am , possibly, giving in to my fears ?


At 11:53 AM , Blogger Suchi Kumar said...

"fear is one thing that a kills a person the most"... i used to hear this often but in the recent past (which you know) i have faced this the most..
This anticipation of failure ruins all things.

Also I agree when you say that "fearless people are always successful." As I feel success is a state of mind. Success is within.

We always have the poor happier than the rich. While it should ideally be the other way round. This is because the poor enjoy what they do, believe in themselves and are satisfied and contend.
Rich dont find themselves contend.. when i see my life I find that i am a pretty ok person.. but stilll there is so much of unhappiness and stress in me as i fear.. I might fail, I might lose...

At 8:02 AM , Blogger amanchap said...

Hey , “V” you have touched an interesting topic.
Me thinks,
Fear: Fear is just a feeling that stops a person from doing something. Fear is something that forms in a mind of a person based on a conscious or subconscious evaluation of the risks involved in handling the tasks

Failure and Success: Is just an outcome of a task performed. Or in other words opinion based on analysis of the task done and whether the end result met the set expectations.
Fear has nothing to do with the end result that is failure or success.Fearless people just do things, they go a step forward take the risk for that. The end result really doesn’t matter to them.
A person who avoids doing something , is not just because of fear, it could be because of lethargy ,carelessness,extream reasonableness or many other such attributes.
One specific attribute that driives people to do thiings what may come is, they know if they attempt to do something there is 50% chance that they will achieve it. If they don’t attempt then it would be 100% they would not be achieving what they want.
Neverthless, one should take sane decision on whether to do the task or not. Sane enough that what ever they do it shouldn’t harm others.

At 3:28 PM , Blogger geetu said...

Some fear is good because without it.. we can become cocky :) and I believe I would rather be a lil cautious than cocky (sometimes!) LOL..

But I do agree that mastering your fear and doing something and then failing is better than jus believing u will fail and not try to do anything at all! :)

haa! I am all talk! :P


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